You Can TRY To Turn It Off

When You're Always Decoding Body Language

You Can TRY To Turn It Off.  Greg Hartley and I were swapping stories on the phone and we began discussing what people say when we tell them what we do.  Inevitably, within three to seven minutes most every person asks, “Can you turn it off?”

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It Depends On The Situation  Greg said something I hadn’t thought about, but it holds true for me as well;  “If I’m around people I know, or people I’m well acquainted with, I’m fairly relaxed.  However, If I’m talking to someone and they say something that doesn’t sound right, then all of the tools turn on…”

The same thing happens to a sales prospect or an investor watching a pitch.  Everything is great.  Suddenly, for some reason they aren’t aware of,  they begin to feel like something just isn’t right.  Their Limbic Brain told them to pay close attention because something was up.

Crossed Arms Mean One Thing To Amateur Body Language Experts

Let's Get Past The Initial Amateur Breakdown Of This Photo

Crossed arms mean more than one thing and so does leaning on a desk.  It seems every amateur “Body Language Expert” has come out of the woodwork to let the world know what they think the Body Language of “crossed arms” means.

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So that’s what I’m gonna do.  And most probably won’t agree with me.  However, I call ’em like I see ’em,  be ye friend, foe, guilty, innocent, adult, or child, you name it.  Let’s break this photo down and get another perspective on what might be happening here.

President Trump’s 5 Second Rule – Is It Real Or What?

Will President Trump REALLY know If the Summit will go well within the first 5 seconds?

President Trump’s 5 Second Rule. What did you think when you heard President Trump say he would know if the North Korean Summit would go good or go bad within the first 5 seconds?  To the most, that might be hard to believe.Scott Rouse - Body Language Expert - nashville - Keynote Speaker - Professional Speaker - President Trump's 5 Second Rule - Can You Use It?

However, research and a study done at Harvard University says he can… READ MORE

Your Body Language Frankenstein

Busting Body Language Myths

Your Body Language Frankenstein.  Crushing Body Language Myths.  Everyone has learned a little something about Body Language. You see a TV show, an interview with a body language expert, read a body language book, or watch a special on the Learning Channel. From that point on, you begin piecing together your very own “Body Language Frankenstein.”

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That’s not good.  Because, you begin making decisions about whether someone you know is lying to you or not.  You may be under the impression the girl you’re talking to dislikes you, when in reality, she’s had a crush on you for quite some time now.

3 Lessons About Body Language You Can Learn From Super Heroes

Or How To Feel More Confident In Everything You Do

3 Lessons about Body Language you can learn from Super Heroes.  When you see plain old Clark Kent he just looks like some nerd hitting on a girl at work.

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When you see him after he takes his glasses off and puts on that leotard, cape, and attitude, he looks pretty cool.  However, putting on a leotard and a cape?  That’s a ballsy move.  But it’s the attitude that makes it work.

Body Language Buzzwords De-Buzzed

Part 1 of a "GIF-tionary" of Nonverbal Terms

Body Language Buzzwords De-Buzzed.  There’s nothing more frustrating than listening to someone talk about an interesting subject while at the same time having no idea what they’re saying.  The reason you don’t understand?  They’re using words and terms you’ve never heard before.

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So I thought it would be a good idea to clear up some of the confusion by giving you a short list of some terms you probably hear quite often when Body Language is discussed in podcasts, blogs, and articles.

The Forgotten Body Language Key

The most powerful and potent Body Language key everyone has forgotten

The Forgotten Body Language Key.  As you begin learning about and becoming aware of all the Body Language keys you can take advantage of, there’s one that almost nobody ever remembers to use.  And it’s probably the most potent tool you have at your disposal.

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They’ll think about it once they are in review mode and are going over what to look for and when to ask a question and how to use their own Body Language to their advantage.  But two minutes into an interaction, you can see it.  They’ve forgotten all about the Body Language key nobody uses.

Lie Spotting Checklist

Here's a short list of things to look for when lie spotting

Lie Spotting Checklist.  You don’t have to be a professional lie spotter to take advantage of The Lie Spotting Checklist.  Let’s talk about some things to look for.

When I was a little kid I used to believe everything I read and heard about Body Language and lying.  If someone said “That person is lying because they ABCD’d” I would put that in my toolkit and to me it was a fact.  Lie spotting seamed simple and easy.

Enough Already! 5 Things About Body Language We’re Tired Of Hearing

My head will explode if I hear these one more time

Enough Already.  5 Things About Body Language We’re Tired Of Hearing.  I would rather stand in line for 3 days at a carpet store, than listen to or read one more thing about these five specific Body Language subjects.

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I’d rather be beaten to death with a yard sprinkler than hear about the first three ever again.  Do you feel the same way?

When someone tells me 73% of all communication is Body Language, they might as well be saying “President Lincoln signed the Declaration of Independence at Freaknik just 2 years before Louis and Clark discovered the Alamo.”  It’s not true… 

Your Best Friend Is Lying. Now What?

What to do when a close friend lies

You think your best friend is lying.  Now what?  As you learn and pay attention to Body Language your mind automatically begins to search for deception.  It’s the first thing people ask me about after a Keynote and it’s the main thing on most everyone’s mind when they find out what I do for a living.

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I totally get it.  It fascinates me too.  I can’t get enough of it.  Without going 120 feet deep into deception detection, let’s get right to it.  Let’s talk about what to do when you think you’ve happened upon a lie a close friend is telling you.

Dummies Guide To Lie Spotting

Start here for a short crash course in Lie Spotting

Dummies Guide To Lie Spotting.  When you’re in the Iie spotting business, every deception cue jumps up, slaps you in the face and says “Look at me!”.  At the same time, every cue suggesting normality and all is well, jumps up, slaps you in the face and says “Look at me!”

Where do you start if you’re not going to make a career out nonverbal studies?  What if you just want to know the basics to help you make the best decision you can in those few moments when it counts?  Well, you’ve come to the right place.  Because I’m gonna tell you and show you exactly what you want to know.

How To Spot A Body Language Expert Lying

And Be 100% Accurate

You’d think a “Body Language Expert”, “Behavior Analyst” or “Human Lie Detector” would be 100% honest every time they opened their mouth.  Guess what?  There’s one question you can ask to spot a Body Language Expert lying and be 100% accurate.  As well, it will generate an array of Body Language cues not many people get to see them transmit.

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Here’s what will happen as soon as you ask the question.  There will be a slight but obvious pause.  A smile will be triggered during the pause and it will grow.  Sometimes into a full-blown Duchenne Smile.  Sometimes just a simple semi-controlled smile.  At that point they will answer…

Awesome GIFs of Body Language

Body Language Is A Language

Awesome GIFs of Body Language.  You can make someone laugh, cry, understand what you’re thinking, intending, or planning by just using your Body Language.  However, it can be tough to do.  Some are better at communicating nonverbally than others.

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Actors, politicians, and comedians attempt to communicate as clearly as possible.  Sometimes while hundreds of thousands or even millions of people are looking at them.  And it is imperative their Body Language matches what they are saying, relaying, or intending.  Amazingly enough, GIFs can help pass along their messages…

3 Things About Liars You May Not Know

Liars don't always do what you think they will

3 Things About Liars You May Not Know.  Most people are under the impression there are specifics they can count on when sussing out liars. Oh but if that were true! 

3 Things You May Not Know About Liars

There are no true “absolutes” you can count on.   However, there are cues you can score well with if you focus on the situation, what’s happening in real time, and when the cues are leaking.