Do You Know The First Verbal Cue To Deception? We talk about non verbal communication and deception much more than verbal communication and deception. Quite often, you’ll find they go hand in hand.
So what is it you’re looking or “listening” for? This is actually one of those moments you’ll remember for quite some time. That’s because this key is so in your face and so out in the open you’ll know you’ve heard it before yet never paid attention to it, but you’ll for sure be listening for it from now on…
Recently I was questioning a teller about some money that was missing from a drawer at a bank. I said “Robert, I need to ask you something… and I need a straight answer so we can get this problem worked out as soon as possible. Did you take the missing money from Angela’s drawer?”
I knew that most likely Robert was gonna answer 1 of 2 ways.
#1- He would answer with “No I did not.”
#2- He would answer with “No I didn’t. It wasn’t me. I didn’t steal any money. I’ve never stolen anything. It wasn’t me, I didn’t do it!”
Which one would YOU be more likely to believe? #1? or #2?
I leaned toward believing #2. (Later that day in the questioning of another suspect, my choice was proven correct.) Why? Well, let’s say I asked you this “I’m going to Arby’s. You wanna go?” If you answered with “No I do not.” That would be weird. Nobody talks like that.
You would use contractions in your answer. You’d say “No I don’t.” Because that’s how humans talk to each other out in the wild. The formality makes answering the other way sound very odd and out of character for most anyone…
Unless of course, you’ve been rehearsing your answer in your head and haven’t said it out loud yet. Then you would release “No I did not” like a flock of white doves at a wedding.
When listening for verbal cues to deception, a few to listen for are:
- – “No I did not.”
- – “It was not me.”
- – “No I have not.”
Remember, the answer should sound normal. Not forced, thought out, or fake. It’s okay if the person is nervous, and why wouldn’t they be? But after a while, the nerves will calm down a bit. And the answers should be closer to sounding normal.
Again, there are no absolutes when it comes to body language and non verbal, as well as verbal, communication. It’s important to remind yourself of that quite often when you find yourself hunting for deceptive, as well as truthful, answers.