Is your gift a hit? Their body language will tell you. You thought you had all your gift shopping done. So you head out to the Christmas party. Half way there, you realize you forgot to get one of your best friends a gift. You stop at the mall, run in and choose something you think they’ll like. They wrap it for you and you make it to the party just in time.
Just as you walk in, the friend you bought the gift for walks up and says “Hey, I’ve got something for you” and hands you a present. You take it and say “Thanks, I got you a little something too” as you hand over your present.
As your friend begins to unwrap the gift, you hope they think you spent lots of time shopping for just the right thing. You watch their face closely… Is your gift a hit? Their body language will tell you.
Here’s what you hope to see:
-His eyebrows go way up when he recognizes it.
-You want to see his eyes squint when he smiles. And I mean the correct squint, the Duchenne style squint. Not the fake smile with his eyes showing little or no squinting.
-If you’re close enough you want to see his eyes dilate a bit.
-You want his head to nod “yes” as he tells you how much he appreciates it.
-Since he’s standing you want to see him lift up just a little on the balls of his feet. Like a groom does when he sees his bride for the first time on their wedding day. (That doesn’t mean he’s in love with you, it just means he’s really happy.)
-Next, you want to see his eyebrows pull together just a little bit in the middle and then flash right back up. (That suggests sincerity as he’s trying to think of how to tell you how much he likes it.)
-He should start nodding a couple more times as well.
-When he tells you how much he likes/loves it, you want the voice to be strong and steady.
-You want to hear a consistent volume.
-You want to hear the word “I” when he’s describing how your gift can be used. For example; “I can use this when I’m driving to work every day!” Not “You can use this when you’re driving somewhere.”
-At the end, you want some more light head nodding and a closed mouth smile, a real smile, with the bottom lip pushing up on the top lip.
If you see those body language signs, or most of them, you scored. Those are all cues that suggest happiness and true sentiment.
Keep in mind, if the effective communication of your happiness and thankfulness may prove to play an important role of your gift-getting this year, practice these cues in the mirror. A lot. They’re hard to fake.
If you do them wrong, your Aunt Pearl will know you didn’t like the painting of a frog playing the banjo she gave you… again this year.