When looking for Deception where do you start? Most people are under the impression that a person trained in nonverbal communication and body language can instantly see every deceptive cue on a person when they are looking for a liar.
I wish that were true. The closest thing to experiencing that would be asking a 5 year old that has a mouth full of Oreos, 20 minutes before dinner, if they know who took some cookies out of the cookie jar.
Looking For Deception
Everyone in this business does it, and there are many ways to approach it. But at the core, it’s exactly the same. So what is the first thing you look for?
Some refer to it as “comfort”. Some call it “normal”. Others call it a “base”. And some call it a “baseline”. In other words, what does that person look and act like when: There are no questions, there is no pressure, you know for sure they are being honest?
After You Baseline
After you know what that looks like, you have a basic understanding of how they look and act in most normal situations. That enables you too look for the Nonverbals and the Body Language that tells you if they are becoming agitated, worried, uncomfortable, anxious, tired, sad, concerned, etc.
In a nutshell the very first thing you look for is the level of comfort the person is experiencing. And as you begin to talk and ask questions pay attention to see if there is a change in that level. Are they coming less comfortable? Do they seem alarmed? Did they begin to show signs of concern or worry?
When You See Changes In Behavior
When you begin seeing changes, THAT is when you know things are moving along. Keep in mind they could be moving along for the better or for the worse, depending on the situation.
This Video Shows You
Watch this video and you’ll see people becoming uncomfortable.
What do you notice first? What’s the first cue that tells you something just isn’t right here? Are there more than 2 cues? What shows you the answer is rehearsed? What tells you they weren’t prepared for the question?
If you study the deceptive answers given in this video, you’ll be ahead of most everyone you know when it comes to spotting a lie.